Friday, December 22, 2006

Strip those titles

I am encouraged by the news that MADD cut its ties with Miss USA Teen when news of her hard-partying hit the media. In kind, I am also encouraged that Miss Nevada USA lost her title due to lewd and lascivious photos taken at a party where among other things, she was kissing girls and exposing private parts of her body for whatever jackass was pointing the camera.

I am encouraged by this news because I think Donald Trump's political correctness has trumped his more typical no-nonsense approach to handling challenges when he allowed Miss USA to keep her title. In a news conference earlier this week, he said that he thought she was a good person with a good heart and everyone deserves a second chance.

Ok, not everyone deserves a second chance. Here's an example of someone who does not deserve a second chance: a woman who kept her drug dependency a secret while she ran for a title that among other things, stands as the example of being a good citizen and a good woman to literally hundreds of thousands of young girls and teenagers all over the USA. A good citizen is not someone who hides a secret like that so she won't be disqualified from winning a title. A good citizen is someone who admits when she has a problem and takes responsibility for it. Instead, Miss USA only repented when she got caught. Now she's entering re-hab. Now she's getting help. Now she admits she has a problem. I'm sorry, I just do not believe that women who are picked to represent the epitome of good citizenship and to serve as a role model to young girls should be excused for what amounts to lying to the world about who she really is.

You know, I have five young women at home ranging in ages from eight to twenty-two. I don't want them looking at Miss USA and thinking, 'Wow, what a forgiving world we live in. I can go out there and make a complete mess of myself and guess what? The world will not only condone my behavior but give me a pat on the back for finally admitting I'm a mess.' I want my girls to see her stripped of her title and hear Mr. Trump say something like this, "This title is for the young woman who best exemplifies the values we all hold sacred; honesty, caring for others, helping others, doing good works, in short, promoting a good lifestyle. This young woman is none of these things and therefore is not worthy of wearing this crown or this title. She's done." I really want my girls to hear that so that they can say to themselves, 'Wow, there are serious consequences for messing up my life. Not only is it humiliating, but people can't respect women who make a mess of themselves. Therefore, I need to make sure I live a good life and don't make a mess of myself.'

Because, people, if we don't stand up and say what is right, how will our young girls and young women make those right decisions when the moment of truth comes? Do you think they'll choose not to do drugs if they see that it is acceptable in Miss USA? Do you think they'll eschew premarital sex if it is condoned constantly on TV and in the media? Do you think they'll make the hard decisions to go against the flow of all the stupid things the majority of kids are doing out there if we don't do the hard thing and stand up as a society and say, "Hey, bad behavior has bad consequences. We don't like it and it doesn't make you a good person, so don't do it."

Then and only then will the social ills crippling our society begin to right themselves. Until then, get used to jacked-up winners getting pats on the back for somehow being a good person in spite of their bad behavior. And get used to the idea that next week or next month or maybe five years from now, it will be your daughter or sister or niece doing the stupid thing, cuz that's where it is heading, folks if we don't do something.

10 comments:

Donkey said...

Awesome points. I agree that society can be too lenient on these matters. People will often say that the person sufferd enough or as Trump put it "I see a good person here". However I do believe that there is a difference between wicked and weak. Weak means that there is a good person that struggles and wicked means that person just does not care. That being said NO one is above the consequences of thier actions.

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bunnyjo georg said...

Thanks for weighing in, Donkey, and welcome to the site.

My pastor used to say that there is a huge difference between someone who is struggling with something and therefore is deserving of help and compassion, versus someone who has just given up the fight. That person needs to feel the consequences of their behavior. However, the difference in this case is that this woman was dishonest and allowed herself to be crowned a role model. In light of her hidden addiction, I believe that title should be stripped and her behavior should be publicly denounced.

DCveR said...

Two things puzzled me on this post: first of all I never realized people regarded any "Miss" as a role model... second, both our countries are ruled by people who could never be considered as role models, so what does that do for showing young people being/acting bad doesn't pay?
Anyway, that is not the reason I'm here today, the reason that brought me here today is completely off topic.
I just dropped by to wish YOU and all your loved ones a great Xmas and a terrific new year. I know I've been absent for a while but I didn't forget you and I sincerely wish you all the best! Take care.

DaveM said...

Hi ...Good to see that you and back. Have Happy Christmas with the family.

But really BJ do you want your girls to have beauty queens etc as role models?? ..... as there are definitely better role models out there.

VeeFlower said...

This story just gets worse. Trump made comments about Rosie O'Donnell because she implied he was hypocritical for setting himself up as a moral compass for young woman after all his public immorality. He said she was physically ugly, fat and unattractive, and all her ventures were failures. Of all the celebrity brawls we have had to hear about over the years, this is the most appalling to me. What on God's green earth does a person's physical appearance have to do with their opinion? Talk about a horrible role model! What he basically is modeling is that your opinion and behavior are only valued if you are a beauty queen. To publicly call any opponent ugly and fat and unattractive tells me a lot about Donald Trump. I am deeply disappointed that a man wielding so much power would stoop to such a low level. His rant against Rosie tells me a lot about why he let the beauty queen off the hook.

shortensweet said...

I think it's horrible. I want the women (or girls) that I love to look up to someone who is morally correct and someone who doesn't hide the issues in their life. Also, someone who respects themselves enough to stepdown. She should realize that she shouldn't be in a position of a roll model.

bunnyjo georg said...

DcVR: Glad to hear from you again! And best wishes to you and your family. As to the issue of role models in public positions, it is true that most of them are not deserving to be role models, and that is exactly my point. When you put someone in a position of honor, young people WILL look up to them as role models regardless of whether they are worthy of being a role model or not. It's human nature to look up to someone in a position of honor. So, let's start appointing people worthy of being role models. If only Jimmy Stewart were still alive...we need more men in positions of authority like him!

DaveM: I'd like my girls to look up to people who are honorable and unfortunately, all they are getting is Raven and Hillary Duff. I'd LOVE to see better role models out there for them to look up to. Right now, not so good.

Mom: Wow, I hadn't heard Trump's comments about Rosie. How ugly! And talk about the pot calling the kettle black...let's see....ugly - check! Unattractive....check! Failure....check! Hm, seems to me Trump better *check* himself!

Shorty: I couldn't agree more. She needs to go.

VeeFlower said...

I for one am tired of physical beauty being the standard we are all supposed to worship and aspire to. I am sure you all know eating disorders are becoming epidemic. Even being aware of that, Madison Avenue still gives us the beanpoles with fake boobs...

Chill Daddy said...

It's so nice having the whole gang back together again, all angry over something bunny brought up. Reminds me of the good old days when our blogs were our bonds.

bunnyjo georg said...

tee hee hee!

Yes, it is good be - yet again - the source of minor family spats and average sized squabbles!