Wednesday, April 19, 2006

those that know me

This should go without saying for those of you that know me, but....apparently not, so here goes. Sometimes I am not a good friend. Sometimes I am not a good family member. Sometimes I am not a good communicator. Sometimes I let little life-y things get in the way of reaching out to people who mean a lot to me. It is selfish, I agree.

Consider it one of my few flaws.

This tendency has always been there, always been a part of my relationships. I've done better over the last couple years, learned to put more focus on my friendships and relationships, but in doing so, if the truth were to be told, I kinda neglected my family.

It really boils down to the way my brain works and the way I interact with the world around me. All my life, I've only managed to focus on a few main things at one time. If I'm eating right and exercising, it seems I get way behind in housework. If I'm going to church and keeping up on the housework, my yard and car get totally wrecked. Or my laundry overflows. The same is true with relationships. I've been so good at emailing and calling my friends, but rarely talk to my family (as they'd be glad to attest) unless I need something.

I'm so bad.

So, as most of you know, about two months ago I began seeing someone new. Chris. He and I both went into it wanting only friendship, but what began as a fun and interesting friendship quickly bloomed into a wildly exciting, consuming love relationship.

We giggle all the time about our "whirlwind storybook romance." After committing our whole hearts and souls to our prior relationship, our prior relationship sought greener pastures elsewhere. Instead of becoming embittered, wounded people, we were lucky enough to find in each other what we thought we had committed to in our prior relationships. Emphasis on the lucky part.

Anyone who has seen us together will have no doubts about how we feel about each other. About how happy we are. About how we genuinely just enjoy, support, encourage and treasure each other.

It's love, folks!

So, as is not uncommon is such situations, our involvement has us completely enthralled. We turn down all but the most important invititations in favor of spending yet more hours cuddling and talking and giggling and canoodling. We treasure every moment folding the whites, raking the yard, shopping for groceries. We cook together and clean up together. We even sneak away for surreptitious trips to the local ice cream shop. He's medium vanilla soft-serve, and I'm a peanut butter cup flurry. Yum.

So, in the midst of all this happiness and togetherness, if I forget - or simply don't have time - to call, please don't think it's because I don't care.

After nine years of being alone, it just feels so good to share my life with someone who I admire and adore with every ounce of my being. And I just can't quite get enough of that.


V J.D. said...

Oh, the way you started this entry I figured you screwed things up with Chris. I kept reading hoping to read the juicy details, but then it just turns out to be a general apology? And you call yourself a bad friend? Boring maybe, but not a bad friend.

bunnyjo georg said...

I'll settle for boring!

Who ever knew boring would be this much fun!??! Give it a try yourself, VJD, you might just find you REALLY enjoy it!

Bonnie Blithe said...

A.D.D. + New Crush = Total Disconnect for me, too, every time.
But I **always** regret not stepping back and keeping one foot firmly planted in my "real life" while I got to know my prince du jour. And I **always** wish I would have remembered to take things more slowly.
You'll ignore this advice -- we all do. Do remember that I gave you some really good advice to ignore a couple of years ago, and I believe I was spot on. (So maybe I'm not completely wrong?)
The 90-Day Honeymoon Phase is the best part of every romantic relationship. I'm addicted to it, as my history shows. ;) Enjoy! and call me later.

bunnyjo georg said...

Bonnie: Of course I'll ignore that advice the same way I ignored your good advice before. Somehow, though, I have a feeling I won't be regretting it as much this time as I did last time! See ya after the 90-day honeymoon phase! ;)

P.S. to post:
My MSN Hotmail account is down in case anyone is trying to reach me on it. Don't know what's up yet. Will keep you posted. Try the instead! Love-love-love!

DCveR said...

Honey, after some time people will start saying the two of you must be nuts! Trust me on this one: we've been there for the last ten years and hope to stay that way for plenty more to come... ;)

bunnyjo georg said...

Hey, being lumped in with a relationship as happy, fulfilling and long-lasting as yours is with GH is an honor! I hope to do the crazy nut crowd proud!

Guyana-Gyal said...

This reminds me of a friend from Trinidad...she told me that when she first met her guy, all her friends were lambasting her for "neglecting" them.

She said to them, "Hey, you all stop harrasing me. I'm busy falling in love." Friends and family, if they're happy for you, will understand this.

Mom said...

I am happy as can be for all concerned, although as a Mom I am a little awed that it is all happening so fast. This is how it was for Fritz and I and all his friends got mad at him for not being more available. The point they missed was that he was always available only because he was alone and had nothing better to do! So I do understand and I am glad you came to the party and stayed so long.

Chill Daddy said...

Crap, there goes my monopoly on perfect romance.

I guess someone else deserves a turn from time to time, have fun Laura, and don't worry about our wounded friendship.